Do you have to learn how to flirt with a girl over text in order to win her over? The short answer is yes. Only if you really want to win her over though.
Texting is a part of dating, and because the words she reads can either turn her off or turn her on, you want to make sure that you are flirting in the right way. The better your flirting skills through text are, the more likely you are to win her over and get to see her in person.
Also, if you have a lot of game in person with a girl, but suck at texting, then you may confuse a girl. She may be drawn to you in person, but repelled by you through text, and you can take away from the positive impressions you have made with her. Eventually that could cause her to lose interest.
Lastly, the girl you like may be texting with other guys. If that’s the case, you need to step up your texting game and make the biggest impression (over other guys) with your flirting. If you don’t feel like you are able to make an awesome impression on a girl right now, then yes – you need to learn how to flirt through text.
6 Things You Need To Know About How To Flirt With A Girl Over Text
Flirting in person and through text is different. In person you can convey what you mean with your body language and actions, but through text you have to rely on the message getting through to her without those two things. Following are a few tips to help you really attract her through your texts.
1. Get Her Senses Involved
She doesn’t just read what you write to her. She also creates a mental picture in her mind. Her sense of touch, sight, sound, and smell get involved. In fact, her senses are what trigger emotional responses, and those emotional responses can build or destroy attraction.
You need to make the most of that knowledge as you flirt with her through text. You have to stimulate her in all ways. The best way to do this is to be more descriptive in your texts.
I’m not talking about becoming a poet and feeding her ridiculous lines that sound like you are trying too hard. I’m just talking about words that help her picture you in detail.
For instance, if you send her a text that says, “Hey, you really know how to get in a guy’s mind,” then she will visualize you sitting around and thinking about her. But, if you send her a text that says, “All day at work, I kept getting distracted by one thing – you!” then she will visualize you at work, and there will be more of a connection that she feels through that text.
2. Make Her Smile
You have probably heard that putting a pen between your teeth and mimicking a smile can help you to feel almost instantly better. This is absolutely true. Research has shown that even a fake smile is beneficial to happiness.
But a real smile makes you feel better about everything around you, especially the person who causes you to smile. Knowing this, it is important to flirt in a way that puts a smile on a girl’s face.
For instance, you can say, “Hey, just thinking about you,” which will likely cause her to look at her phone and then continue on with her day. Or you can say, “Hey, just thinking about your beautiful face and [insert private joke here].” The last text is more likely to make her pause from her day and smile.
3. Make It Clear What You Are Saying
There is nothing worse than confusion through text. If you send a text that you think is sweet and flirty, and she sees it as rude or mean, then you have a good shot of her not answering your texts ever again!
That is why it is important to make it clear what you are saying. If you have to add a few words to your text, then do that.
For instance, texting her “Why do I enjoy my time with you so much?” can sound flirty or annoyed, depending on how she interprets it. But, if you add a simple, “I’m looking forward to seeing you again,” then you are making it clear that your message is positive.
If you are ever in doubt, remember that you can also make it clear through emoticons. While they can be cheesy if you use them too much, they can help a girl read your tone and expression behind the words, and it can help you get your message across much more clearly.
4. Don’t Try To Correct Yourself After A Questionable Text
Own your texts. Stand behind them. If you start to overthink it, you may send a follow up text that makes things really bad.
For instance, if you tell a girl how hot she is through text and then decide that it is too forward or too pushy, you may be tempted to send another message that makes you sound better. Don’t! She may love the text, even if she doesn’t respond to you right away. If you text something else, such as an explanation as to why you would send such a ‘weird message’, then you are doing damage because she will start to get confused about what you really mean.
Don’t confuse a girl. Be yourself, flirt, and don’t try to correct what you are saying.
5. Your Texts Should Have A Goal
You should have a goal in mind with your texts. Most likely, your goal is to build attraction with her and meet up with her in person. When you have a goal in mind, you will be more purposeful with your texts and send texts that really convey what you want to say and help you get what you really want.
6. Send Flirty Texts At The Right Time
Lastly, you don’t want to send a flirty text in the middle of the day when she is busy and distracted. Even if your text is cute, you could end up being a frustration to her if you interrupt her at a time that she needs to focus.
The best times to send a flirty text are in the morning or the evening. This helps you get in a girl’s mind when she is not expecting to hear from you, and will make sure she’s thinking about you as she starts her day or as she goes to sleep.